By doing this project, I was able to see where I came from, and the many influences that shaped me into the person I have become. I have seen many factors and theories that have played into my life, and they have made me the person I am. Without these outcomes, I don't think that I would be where I am today. My life might have been completely different and I would be chasing after different dreams. The following theories have shaped me into who I am.....
GENDER SOCIALIZATION
I am the only girl in my family. Through my family interactions, I grew up with a lot of influence in regards to the things I enjoy. When I was little, my parents bought me "girl" objects such as easy bake ovens, baby dolls, barbies, etc. I was definitely channeled into liking gender specific toys. I loved "playing school" with my friends, or playing with my barbie dolls. I was also really into taking dance classes; especially ballet. I loved being a little mommy to my youngest brother.
As I got older, I believe that my brothers had an impact of me. I was constantly surrounded by games or toys for boys. I soon started straying from the typical girl activities. I grew up loving sports, guns, playing with my brothers' hot wheels, etc. I really loved playing on summer baseball leagues, going camping, and four-wheeling. Now, I still love participating in activities such as bridge jumping, playing and watching sports, and shooting my dads guns.
Even though I thoroughly enjoy those activities, I have been able to balance my tendency to like activities specified towards both girls and boys. To demonstrate this, I was a cheerleader for 5 years throughout junior high and high school. I don't mind getting dirty and having fun, but I also enjoy dressing up and feeling good about myself. 
When I was younger, I also know that I participated in activity exposure. My mom and I would always be the ones to go grocery shopping (she called me her little shopping buddy) and clean the house on Saturday mornings. While we did those activities, my dad and brothers did yard work or other jobs designed for the outdoors. I was also in charge of helping my mom prepare meals or plan for family gatherings.
As I got older, I believe that my brothers had an impact of me. I was constantly surrounded by games or toys for boys. I soon started straying from the typical girl activities. I grew up loving sports, guns, playing with my brothers' hot wheels, etc. I really loved playing on summer baseball leagues, going camping, and four-wheeling. Now, I still love participating in activities such as bridge jumping, playing and watching sports, and shooting my dads guns.
Even though I thoroughly enjoy those activities, I have been able to balance my tendency to like activities specified towards both girls and boys. To demonstrate this, I was a cheerleader for 5 years throughout junior high and high school. I don't mind getting dirty and having fun, but I also enjoy dressing up and feeling good about myself. 
When I was younger, I also know that I participated in activity exposure. My mom and I would always be the ones to go grocery shopping (she called me her little shopping buddy) and clean the house on Saturday mornings. While we did those activities, my dad and brothers did yard work or other jobs designed for the outdoors. I was also in charge of helping my mom prepare meals or plan for family gatherings.CHILDHOOD
Throughout the Colonial Period, children were thought of as little adults and evil by nature. They were bound out and taught from an early age as to how to produce products or work in factories. They were never given the chance to grow up and have a childhood. Since the Industrial Revolution, children are seen differently. They are innocent and actually are given a chance to grow up and be children.
Looking back on my childhood, my brothers and I were given the chance to grow up slowly; enjoying each day and living as children should. We had the opportunity to learn freely and to participate in activities with others our age. I loved how we were given as much freedom and independence as we could handle at certain stages in life.
Looking back on my childhood, my brothers and I were given the chance to grow up slowly; enjoying each day and living as children should. We had the opportunity to learn freely and to participate in activities with others our age. I loved how we were given as much freedom and independence as we could handle at certain stages in life.
FAMILY AS A PROCESS
Each family is on a continuum which is constantly changing. Over time, the family can be at any point on this continuum. They can be happy with their family units, or unhappy. It is always changing.
Second, family quality varies over time. Growing up in my family, my brothers and I used to fight all the time! We were always picking on one another and trying to make everyone miserable. As we have gotten older and wiser, we have become best friends. Besides my husband, I truly consider my brothers and parents as my best friends. We are supportive and constantly want the best for each other.
Third is how each family is idiosyncratic and unique. Each family enjoys participating in activities or traditions together. For example, my family has the tradition of going camping each summer together. We camp in Island Park and love spending time in the outdoors. We enjoy going on long four-wheeler rides together and hiking in the woods. 
Fourth stresses the importance that perfection should be thought of as ideal, but not a reality. We can have the desire to be perfect, but we shouldn't focus on the fact that it is going to happen. Nobody is perfect, so we won't always get perfect results.
Second, family quality varies over time. Growing up in my family, my brothers and I used to fight all the time! We were always picking on one another and trying to make everyone miserable. As we have gotten older and wiser, we have become best friends. Besides my husband, I truly consider my brothers and parents as my best friends. We are supportive and constantly want the best for each other.
Third is how each family is idiosyncratic and unique. Each family enjoys participating in activities or traditions together. For example, my family has the tradition of going camping each summer together. We camp in Island Park and love spending time in the outdoors. We enjoy going on long four-wheeler rides together and hiking in the woods. 
Fourth stresses the importance that perfection should be thought of as ideal, but not a reality. We can have the desire to be perfect, but we shouldn't focus on the fact that it is going to happen. Nobody is perfect, so we won't always get perfect results.LOVE!!!
The first time my husband and I met, we spent the whole day on my apartment couch talking. I believe that is where we started the liking phase of the Triangle Theory of Love. After spending every day together, our friendship grew into more than just that. We eventually started talking about our future together and we shared our goals and ambitions. It wasn't until we were able to fully open up, and give the other person the attention and love they desired, that our love grew into what I think was more of a fatuous love. We had the elements of passion and commitment, but we had yet to fully add the emotional aspect. That would follow later, once we were married.
Once we decided to get married, I think our love fully bloomed into consummate love. We were completely committed to one another, and we had also combined the other two aspects which are passion and intimacy. My wedding day was perfect and one that I will never forget! I was surrounded by friends and family members who were there to support my life-changing decision.
I know that over time, the components that make up these theories will change, but I know that the love I have for my husband won't. I know that we have to work each day at building upon every aspect of our marriage. I can't let the little things come into my marriage that will chance altering or changing the types of love I feel towards my husband. If they do alter it, I need to recognize them, and change them for the better.
Once we decided to get married, I think our love fully bloomed into consummate love. We were completely committed to one another, and we had also combined the other two aspects which are passion and intimacy. My wedding day was perfect and one that I will never forget! I was surrounded by friends and family members who were there to support my life-changing decision.
I know that over time, the components that make up these theories will change, but I know that the love I have for my husband won't. I know that we have to work each day at building upon every aspect of our marriage. I can't let the little things come into my marriage that will chance altering or changing the types of love I feel towards my husband. If they do alter it, I need to recognize them, and change them for the better.
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